“I wish I looked like her…
I wish I had…
I wish I didn’t…
John 15:9 “As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love.”
Since I was a child I have been comparing myself to others. Maybe it’s because other kids had what I wanted. Most of them had normal clothes, and not the hand-me-downs like I did. Most of them had braces or straight teeth, and I had neither. Most of them had two parents at home, two incomes, and the luxuries that afford yearly vacations and lunch tickets. When you’re a kid, it’s hard to grasp everything all at once. I was healthy, fed, clothed, and I had a wonderful mother and even my own room; I was blessed. Despite all my blessings, in my immaturity I longed to be on the other side of the fence.
I like to tell myself that I was young then and that I didn’t know any better, but there’s a flaw with that logic: I still fall into the trap of comparisons and wanting what I don’t have.
Comparing myself to my peers back then didn’t help me, it only made me jealous and more insecure. Comparing myself now to others accomplishes the same garbage in my heart. God showed me this through my struggle. I have been unnecessarily miserable in my own shoes, wanting the peace and the acceptance God already has for me. So I’ve decided to work on this aspect of my heart and have asked God to help me stop comparing myself to others. I have made the decision to be thankful for who I am and where I am.
I am going to change what I can, pray about what I can’t, and pursue whatever is in the middle, but it took me years of jealousy, suffering, and bitterness to get here. I had to let go and accept who God created me to be.
Isaiah 26:3 You will keep [him] in perfect peace, [Whose] mind [is] stayed [on You], Because he trusts in You
True peace comes from the Father. Simply put: peace is a by-product of trusting and thinking about the Lord. If you want peace in your mind, just start dwelling on your loving Father. Do a simple Bible study about God’s character and His love for you. Being jealous and comparing ourselves to others is a waste of time. It keeps us from action to change and become the person we want to be. It keeps us pointing fingers and feeling sorry for ourselves. It ensures that we will never have what we really want, because we are too focused on complaining and internal comparisons.
It’s time to embrace yourself! It’s very likely that you even have the life someone else envies, but that’s not what truly matters. You can start being happy with your life now! Do what you can to change your life for the better and make peace with what you cannot change.
You are unique, special, and specifically made by God! Be at peace and give yourself permission to be you!
“O Lord of hosts, blessed (happy, fortunate, to be envied) is the man who trusts in You [leaning and believing on You, committing all and confidently looking to You, and that without fear or misgiving]!”
“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.”
“For the Father Himself loves you, because you have loved Me, and have believed that I came forth from God.”